The oldest cliché in
self-improvement is that quitters never win and winners never
But there are times that we find
ourselves in bad situations we can’t change, which leaves two
1. Accept things as they are
There are certainly some bad
situations that people stay in out of a sense of obligation, and
this isn’t a bad thing. Serving something greater than yourself
is generally a sign of maturity, responsibility, and
A common example is a not-so-happy
couple that stays married and remains civil to each other in
order to provide a stable home for their kids. (Not to confuse
an unhappy marriage with one that’s destructive and
But too many people stay in bad
situations they have no obligation to stay in and try to
rationalize it by sounding noble.
Think about how many people you’ve
known who tried to justify wasting years of their lives in dead
end jobs by saying they’re not quitters.
People constantly tell me how they
dislike their jobs and would like to make a change. When I ask
why they don't, they give a list of reasons why they “can’t”.
But they’re all just excuses.
It’s a sad reality of human nature
that it’s easier for people to maintain the status quo – no
matter how much they dislike it – than to make a change.
Social workers who try to get
battered women out of deadly situations have a saying that goes,
“I know I live in Hell, but at least I know the streets by
Your situation may not be that
extreme, but staying at a job (or in a career field) you hate is as
much of a disservice to your employer as it is to you.
If your body is at your present
job but your heart and head are somewhere else, your company’s
only getting a third of what it’s paying for.
Walking away doesn’t always
mean you’re a quitter. Sometimes, it means just the opposite.
To Your Success,
If you’re in a bad situation, this article is not to encourage
you to leave. It’s to encourage you to be honest about why you’re
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