People with low self esteem will
whine about never getting raises and being passed over for
promotions, but won’t do anything to earn them.
This is because these negative
outcomes fit their low self image. They'll remain underachievers until
they change their self image.
This begs the question, “How do
you give someone high self esteem?”
They have to do something to
I learned this when I was five. My
father decided it was time to take the training wheels off of my
bicycle. I was terrified and begged him not to, but he believed
in me more than I believed in myself.
He held the bike upright and ran
beside me as I peddled and frantically yelled, "Don't let go
Daddy!" But he didn't respond, because he already had let go. I
was riding like a big boy, and felt ten feet tall and bullet
gained self esteem because I:
1. Faced my fear
2. Did the work
3. Accomplished something I
thought I couldn't
But I would have never done it on
my own. It took someone who believed in me more than I believed
in myself to push me past my comfort zone.
Personal growth always requires
stepping outside of our comfort zone. Because most people don’t
take this step on our own, we need someone to push us.
Sometimes it can be in the form of
a gentle nudge, other times it needs to be a forceful shove.
Either way, you as a manager have to push your employees further
than they think they can go.
At first, they’ll think you're unrealistic. But when they accomplish more than they thought
they could, they’ll think you’re a genius.
To Your Success,
P.S. This doesn’t change at any age. For months, I planned to Sky Jump off of the Stratosphere in Las Vegas for my
50th birthday on 10/20/13. But when the time came, I was terrified and wanted to back out. A young
lady who described herself as the most experienced jumper and
best rigger in Vegas kept saying “You can do this!” as I
nervously asked her to triple check every buckle on my harness. I went through with it,
will forever be grateful to her.
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