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How to Motivate People with Low Self Esteem

 

 

Author:   Glenn Shepard
Date:   July 29,  2014
Category:   Management
 
   

 

   
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Dear Glenn,

 

I LOVED your seminar and would like to implement several of the things you taught.  But then I wonder about the 'you can't teach an old dog new tricks' thing.

      Maybe we've let too much go on for too long. Is it ever too late for people to change?

 

Kim in Wichita Falls, TX

 

 

Dear Kim,

 

It's never too late to change, but change can be painful. As Les Brown says, people don’t change until the pain of not changing exceeds the pain of changing

     Thanks for your question and for your kind words.

 

- Glenn in Nashville

 
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People with low self esteem will whine about never getting raises and being passed over for promotions, but won’t do anything to earn them.

 

This is because these negative outcomes fit their low self image. They'll remain underachievers until they change their self image.

 

This begs the question, “How do you give someone high self esteem?”

 

You can’t.

 

They have to do something to impress themselves.

 

I learned this when I was five. My father decided it was time to take the training wheels off of my bicycle. I was terrified and begged him not to, but he believed in me more than I believed in myself.

 

He held the bike upright and ran beside me as I peddled and frantically yelled, "Don't let go Daddy!" But he didn't respond, because he already had let go. I was riding like a big boy, and felt ten feet tall and bullet proof.

 

I gained self esteem because I:

 

1. Faced my fear

2. Did the work

3. Accomplished something I thought I couldn't

 

But I would have never done it on my own. It took someone who believed in me more than I believed in myself to push me past my comfort zone.

 

Personal growth always requires stepping outside of our comfort zone. Because most people don’t take this step on our own, we need someone to push us.

 

Sometimes it can be in the form of a gentle nudge, other times it needs to be a forceful shove. Either way, you as a manager have to push your employees further than they think they can go.

 

At first, they’ll think you're unrealistic. But when they accomplish more than they thought they could, they’ll think you’re a genius.

 

 

 

To Your Success,

 

 

Glenn Shepard

 

 

 

P.S.  This doesn’t change at any age. For months, I planned to Sky Jump off of the Stratosphere in Las Vegas for my 50th birthday on 10/20/13. But when the time came, I was terrified and wanted to back out. A young lady who described herself as the most experienced jumper and best rigger in Vegas kept saying “You can do this!” as I nervously asked her to triple check every buckle on my harness. I went through with it, and will forever be grateful to her.

 

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