Letís face it.
We all get into ruts from time to
time, and feel like thereís no escape from the routine that has
become our lives. It can really make life seem like a real
So how do we allow ourselves to
get into these ruts?
The truth is that we're totally to
blame for a lack of progress in our lives. We stopped
challenging ourselves to learn new things and experiment with
different ideas. No matter what, it is a fact that we got
comfortable in the rut in which we now sit.
So how do we get out?
Self-actualization is not
something we are born with ó it's something we attain.
Self-actualized people just want to be the best they can be
every day of their lives.
Like everyone else, they have
their bad days too, but they seem to happen less often and with
Itís not a pursuit of perfection
that drives a self-actualized individual. They never even want
to reach perfection or even believe it exists. After all, if
they ever reached a point where further self-improvement was not
possible, then they too would be in a rut.
The self-actualizers simply keep
pushing the bar higher, learning new skills, and fully immersing
themselves in everything they do ó while having a ball in the
Self-actualization can only begin
when you start surrounding yourself with people who are wiser
and healthier than yourself.
It's easy to stay in a rut and
cease making progress in life when you and your friends are all
in the same boat.
But try hanging out with someone
that is composing their own music or turning the grapes in their
back yard into wine with a contraption they made themselves.
These people cannot help but to inspire us to learn something
new and become better people in the process.
So if youíre stuck in a routine
that feels like it will never end, maybe it's time to start
looking for some new friends. Self-actualization is a process
and it never begins unless you make it happen.
To Your Success,
P.S. This doesn't mean you have to "dump" existing
friends that are less-than-positive influences. It simply means
that you need to dilute their influence by adding more positive
influences in your life.
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