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If Youíve Ever Been Called ďAnal RetentiveĒ, This Is for You

     

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Glenn Shepard

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September 9, 2014

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Dear Glenn,

 

Is it unreasonable for me to expect that when I say "Good morning" to my employees, they say "Good morning" back?

    Most of my employees do, but one doesn't. She says it's because she's young (22) and I'm "old" (37). I think she's doing it out of spite.

 

Jaimey in Cheyenne, WY

 

 

Dear Jaimey,

 

Responding to "Good morning" with "Good morning" is a social norm called common courtesy, but it's not a requirement like stopping for a red light.

     However, you have every right to make it a requirement in your business.

   My beautiful bride and I have lunch at Buffalo Wild Wings every Friday when I'm in town, and their young employees always greet every customer when they come in, and say goodbye when they leave.

 

Glenn in Nashville, TN

 
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Most people use the term "anal retentive", but few know its origin.

 

Dr. Sigmund Freud used it in relation to children who experienced stress or conflict while they were potty training.

 

He theorized that they develop personality traits such as a strong need for order, stubbornness, or a need to control. As adults, these individuals are often obstinate, meticulous, frugal, or uptight.

 

One website which pokes fun at anal retentive individuals says you might be anal retentive if you:

 

- Eat M&Ms in color order

 

- Fold your dirty clothes before putting them in the hamper

 

- Have all boxes in your kitchen facing the same way

 

- Alphabetize your spices

 

- Spell check every email reply you send

 

 Another website describes a t-shirt that reads "You are anal retentive if you wonder if there should be a hyphen."

 

At the opposite extreme is the anal expulsive personality. They tend to be disorganized, reckless, careless, and defiant.

 

Freud theorized that the parents of these individuals didn't demand that their children get it right, and that this can lead to a more lax personality as an adult.

 

Anal expulsive individuals can exhibit emotional outbursts and outright cruelty.

 

While I doubt anyone folds their dirty laundry before putting it in the hamper, organizing your kitchen and closet are not bad.

 

And as far as spell checking your emails, consider that 75% of all jobs that pay over $100,000 a year are never advertised and are filled by referral. Would you hire someone who canít spell to fill a six figure job opening?

 

In order to practice the three cardinal rules of management of Document, Document, Document, you have to be reasonably organized.

 

If your employees donít think youíre a little anal retentive, chances are that youíre not anal retentive enough.

 

 

To Your Success,

 

 

Glenn Shepard

 

 

 

P.S. Yeah, I know what you're thinking about 37 being old :-)

 

 

 

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