People use the term "Sociopath"
loosely, but it's no laughing matter.
Mental health experts estimate
there are over 12 million sociopaths in the U.S.
The problem is that they're
extraordinarily good at deception, so they can spend their
entire lives flying under the radar and fool everyone around
Contrary to common belief, most
are not serial killers or societal misfits that can't keep a
Many are "High Functioning
Sociopaths" who are quite successful. They surround themselves
with minions who are spellbound by their charm and wouldn't
doubt, question, or suspect them of anything.
Tell Tale Signs
They exploit others for their own
personal gain (i.e. theft and
They'll also exploit others just
for their own personal gratification, even when there's no
material gain (i.e. Intentionally being late just to keep others
waiting, or lying just to get away with it).
They're incapable of love. They
may act loving to get what they want, but they can't
actually feel love for anyone else because they're
Charisma is key because it's how they get people to let their
guard down. Because they're so charming, most people are
completely oblivious to their secret double life.
They're incapable of feeling
gratitude, guilt, remorse, empathy, shame, and sympathy for anyone other
than themselves. A University of Wisconsin study found
abnormalities in the brain that may be responsible for this.
They tend to be highly intelligent
and are good liars.
They always have to win, from
simple arguments to competing in business.
No matter how hurtful or damaging
their actions may be to you, they don't apologize (unless they
see some benefit to them for doing so).
Because they feel unbound by
social norms, they'll do things that seem bizarre to you - but they're
great at rationalizing whatever they do.
They have a callous disregard for
the rights and feelings of others, so cheating, lying, and
stealing are acceptable means to an end for them.
Despite their insensitivity to others, they're highly sensitive to criticism and prone to emotional outbursts.
If you're like most people, you
probably have a name and face in mind right about now.
Do NOT confront someone you
suspect of being a sociopath about your suspicions. Because they
are so incredibly manipulative, they'll make it look like you're
the one who's mentally ill.
And, they'll try to turn others
who are gullible enough to fall for their Svengali-like charisma
and charm against you.
The Best Remedy
severely damaged and highly dangerous people. Because there is no
known cure, the best advice from mental health
experts is avoidance.
If you work for a sociopath,
you'll be well served to find another job.
And what if you supervise a
sociopath? As they say in Kansas City, "Ride 'em like a Missouri
mule". Watch them like a hawk until you get rid of them. They
might be good workers, but they won't be good employees.
And what if you're married to one?
Seek counseling with a licensed therapist immediately. Go alone
and find out if your suspicions are correct, and then decide
where to go from there.
To Your Success,
P.S. While there is no known cure for sociopathy, knowing what to look for
can make your life a lot easier. At least you'll know
you're not crazy when you see the behavior no one else sees.
I've been there myself and know the incredible relief that comes
when you finally realize what you're dealing with.
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