Rapid City, SD
Wichita Falls, TX
I love it the Ask Glenn column but haven't
seen it in a while. Are you dropping it?
- Marco in San Francisco
Far from it! After using
Microsoft FrontPage as the HTML editor for all of our online
content for 15 years, we changed to Adobe
Dreamweaver after our webhosting company dropped support for
Two different web "masters" who
charge $100 an hour couldn't debug coding problems with the Ask
Glenn column during the changeover. After 36 failed attempts, it was temporarily omitted until we found
someone who could fix the problem.
Thanks for your
- Glenn in Nashville, TN
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But if you've lived
long enough to notice a wrinkle or two, experience the stress of
supporting a family, or have ever wondered what happened to the
optimist you were at 21, then answer one simple question:
What happened to you?
it sounds rude, but success is not for sissies. So why is your
life so different from how you thought it would be?
you're like most people, the current version of you would be a
disappointment to the 21-year-old version of you.
That's not necessarily a bad thing, since people's expectations
in their youth are usually unrealistic. Because life is inevitably full
of disappointments, reality rarely lives up to the fantasy.
(At 16, I wanted to play lead guitar for AC/DC, despite the fact
that I had no talent and no ambition.)
But now that your expectations are more realistic, are you still
disappointed with where you are?
If you're content with
your job, relationships, health, and overall self-esteem, stop reading here and delete this email.
But if you're not, you're far
thousands of people each year, and an alarming number live their
lives in a spirit of frustration and at least
some sense of failure.
Some are underpaid.
are over-educated and underemployed.
Some have completely
abandoned their dreams, given up on getting ahead, and settled
for getting by.
They try to please others, but rarely
please themselves. The peace, contentment, and happiness they
expected at 21 have turned into living in defeat and
So how does one go about changing
with increasing your self-esteem, and the only one way to do
that is to do something to impress yourself.
self-esteem cannot be given; it must be earned.
good to receive attention from a member of the opposite se*,
praise from an authority figure, or compliments from a colleague
or friend. But that feeling is temporary because it only lasts
as long as that person is there to give it.
We end up
feeling hungry for more when they're not around. This can create
the unhealthy and destructive habit of relying on others for
validation, which makes us weak, needy, and leaves us with no
Our character, compassion,
conscience, courage, and accomplishments are ways we build true
self-esteem. You must work to earn it. But when you do that, no
one can ever take it from you.
To Your Success,
P.S. Want to put this principle to the
test? Name three things you did in the past year that you are so
proud of, that if someone else did them first, you'd say "That's
someone I really admire and want to be more like". If
you can name three, your self-esteem will be rock solid. If you
can't, make a list of three things you'd like to do to impress
yourself and watch how quickly your
self-esteem grows as you get closer to accomplishing them.
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