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If there's one piece of wisdom I
could impart to every person on earth before the New Year,
especially young adults who are just starting their lives, it
would be this...
"The quality of your life will always be
in direct proportion to the quality of the people in your life,
so be very, very selective about who you allow in your inner
The sad reality is that most people spend more
time choosing a pair of shoes than choosing friends, cohorts at
work, or other people that will ultimately shape who they
They then take clues for what's "normal" from
the worst people to emulate, simply because those people are in
their circle of influence.
As a result, they inadvertently take
financial advice from broke people, marital advice from people
whose relationship with their spouse is more of a competition
than a partnership, and general life advice from people who've
made a lifestyle out of making bad choices and then blaming
everyone but themselves.
While it’s not possible to
eliminate all of the negative people in your life, you can at
least limit your exposure to them – just as you limit your
exposure to the sun.
If you want to be in awe of the
person you are on December 31 of next year, make a resolution on
Jan 1 to surround yourself with better quality people by taking
this "Better People Pledge":
In 2016, I will spend less
time around people who…
think they deserve everything, and more around those who are
grateful for everything.
... I only hear from when they
want something, and more around those reach out every once in a
while just to say hello.
… say one
thing and do another, and more around those who lead by example.
enablers that remain silent while watching me do
self-destructive things, and more around those who care enough
about me to hold me accountable.
drag others down, and more around those who always lift others
… take freely but give nothing, and
more around those who give freely but ask for little in return.
… are always looking for what they
can get, and more around those who are always looking for how
they can help.
… do things
I'd never want my kids to do, and more around the kind of people
I’d want my kids to grow up to be like.
… have such
low self-esteem that they treat everyone with disrespect, and
more around confident people who treat everyone as if they're
the most important person on earth.
… can find a
way to screw up a free lunch, and more around those who always
find the silver lining in even the darkest cloud.
… suck the life out of the room when
they walk into it, and more around those make everyone’s day
brighter just by being a part of it
… are always
envious of what everyone else has, and more around those who are
always encouraging and happy for what others have.
I guarantee you that if you take the Better People Pledge,
2016 will be one of the best years of your life.
To Your Success,
If you have grown
children who turned out great but hung out with friends you
didn’t approve of when they were younger, share this article
with them. You might actually get to hear that sentence that
validates all the work you put into raising them – “Mom/Dad, you
were right. I wish I had listened to you sooner.”
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