Would You Refuse to Hire Someone Because of How They Treat Their
by Glenn Shepard
April 19, 2016
A former employee failed
a drug test and said she wanted to quit because if
other employees found out, she'd be embarrassed. We
filled out a final release form stating why she wanted
to quit and she signed it.
She then filed for
unemployment benefits. We explained why she left and the unemployment office said the paperwork
What would you do, ask her to come back to work, or what?
- Mitchell in Georgia
years ago, I was on the long list to serve as U.S.
Secretary of Labor. It’s probably a good thing I was
never appointed, because the President
would have asked me to step down after I drew national
attention to the abuse of unemployment benefits.
There are people
who get jobs with the goal getting fired. One
website that teaches people how to do this says “The
idea here is to make your workplace uncomfortable
without alerting your employer that you're doing it on
purpose”. It lists “Do just enough to scrape by” and
“Work very, very slowly” among its suggestions.
U.I. benefits are supposed to be paid
only when employees lose their job through no fault of
In the REAL WORLD, I’ve seen people get
fired for everything from assault to
embezzlement and get rewarded with U.I.
Your wage base for SUTA (the payroll tax
employers pay for unemployment benefits) in Georgia is
$9,500, which is low compared to states that top $44,000.
It won’t cost you a
fortune if you want to let it go because it’s not
worth your time. But if you want to fight it on
principle, I wouldn’t fault you for that either. I've
done it myself, and know how good it feels
when justice prevails.
Thanks for your question.
- Glenn in Nashville, TN
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Anybody with half a brain knows that
reality TV isn’t real.
But because the idea of finding
true love and living happily ever after by winning a contest is
so appealing, people still live vicariously through shows like
The Bachelor and The Bachelorette.
These shows illustrate
how people work to win the “prize”, but the implication is that
the work is over once the marriage begins.
marriage requires work. And no matter how hard one person works
at it, the marriage won’t work if both people don’t work at it.
When I talk about my wife in this column or on my
monthly Gold CDs, I
always refer to her as my Beautiful Bride.
When we got
married, she pointed out that my initials are MGS and that as
Mrs. Glenn Shepard; her initials would also be MGS. So I began
referring to her as MGS1 and myself MGS2, because I believe that
love means putting the other person first. The tag on my van
reads MGS2, and I have a bumper sticker that reads “I Love My
Sometimes women will say to her “I wish my husband
treated me that way”. But I’ve seen how some of them behave
around their husbands. They’re self-centered, disrespect and
emasculate their husbands, and do nothing to make him feel
special. Then they wonder why their husbands don’t treat them
like a queen.
Just as with any other relationship, you
get out of a marriage what you put into it.
wedding anniversary this year (January 1st), my Beautiful Bride
committed to write one love note on a Post It every day for
2016, and put it in a different place for me to find every day.
She’s a great wife because she values our marriage, and
works hard to make our marriage successful. She’s also a great
employee, because she works hard at making the business
successful. Although these are separate parts of life, I
strongly believe there’s a correlation between the two.
Many years ago I learned about a hiring technique of taking a
job applicant and their spouse to dinner before making an offer,
to see how they treat their spouse. The theory is that someone
who’s disrespectful to their spouse will also be disrespectful
to their coworkers, and won’t be a good team player.
that reason, I’ve always refused to hire people who publicly
berate and disrespect their spouses, no matter how good their
To Your Success,
P.S. My Beautiful
Bride set up a Facebook page to share some of the love notes for
others to use. It’s at
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