Have you ever wondered why whiners whine?
At work, they
kill productivity morale faster than a speeding bullet. At home,
whiners who constantly deluge spouses with negative comments
speed marriages towards divorce.
Why isnít there some
medication doctors can prescribe to cure them of their disease?
Surely psychiatrists could develop a 12-step program for
whining and its many addicts. Or at least isolate why some
people are unable to see the good about anything, situation, or
So what causes whining, and how can this foul
evil be defeated?
Whining boils down to constantly
complaining, which comes from how a person sees the world. You
can see any person, thing, or situation like the proverbial
glass of water: Is it half-empty or half-full?
with confidence have larger goals that make constantly
complaining a waste of time and an unnecessary distraction.
While they may not like the situation, the more confident they
are, the less likely they are to be intimidated by it.
Lack of self-confidence is a common trait in whiners.
Feeling powerless to do anything to change the situation, they
resort to whining because it gives them some degree of perceived
control about the problem or situation that they donít like.
Unfortunately, whiners donít see their whining as anything
other than them giving their opinion. Theyíd rather complain
about a situation than resolve it. This is why whining is
ultimately about avoidance.
And the best solution is
forcing people to face the hard truth.
Of course, they
won't like hearing it and will often blame YOU, the messenger,
for the message. But if you remain silent around the whiners in
your life, you'll continue to suffer in silent agony, and
eventually you'll become one of them.
To Your Success,
If youíre wondering how to get whiners to face the truth, start
by having them read this article.
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