Some people learn by reading, some by doing, and some have to
stick their tongue in the light socket before they get it.
While no one likes pain, it helps us learn lessons we need
to learn. And more importantly, it ensures we don’t forget them.
You probably don’t remember all the details of the first
time you touched a hot burner on a stove, swatted at a bee
nest, or any of the other crazy things we do as kids. But you
never did them again because the consequences are etched deeper
in your memory than the actual events.
Dave Ramsey says
that experience is a harsh teacher, but at least it's a thorough
This is why it’s such a travesty when
well-intentioned people try to insulate others from the
consequences of their actions.
It starts with Helicopter
Parents who shield their kids from ever feeling pain,
disappointment, or anything negative. While these parents have
good intentions, it backfires because it only delays the
These kids might enjoy a sheltered childhood,
but as young adults they’ll be ill-equipped to handle the harsh
reality of a dog eat dog world.
Even though they know it
in their heads, it’s still a bitter pill to swallow when they
realize everyone doesn’t get a trophy in the real world. And
that they don’t get a promotion and raise just for showing up at
As easy as it is to criticize parents who do this,
managers often make a similar mistake.
We all want our
employees to grow, learn, and succeed. But we prevent them from
all three of these by not allowing them to fail.
want your people to succeed, you must be willing to let them
pass through the molding stage of failure.
If this is
difficult for you, here are three more reasons you need to do
1. It Builds Strength
Michael Jordan was cut from his high school basketball team.
Walt Disney was fired from a newspaper because he wasn’t
“creative enough”. A young singer named Aaron was told by the
manager of the Grand Ole Opry here in Nashville to “go back to
driving a truck”. And the list goes on.
2. It Helps People Learn How to
Make Better Decisions
It’s said that wisdom comes
from good judgment, good judgment comes from experience, and
experience comes from bad judgment. If you never experienced the
consequences of bad judgment, you’d keep touching that hot
3. It Empowers
By letting people fail, you’re indirectly
saying “I believe in you.” This helps them believe in
themselves, which is a prerequisite to all personal growth.
If you really care about someone, you have to care enough to
let them fail.
To Your Success,
You know the singer named Aaron who was told to go back to
driving a truck as Elvis Aaron Presley.
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