I’m a Licensed Professional
Counselor and am getting started presenting workshops on various
counseling topics. What advice can you give as far as getting
this thing off the ground at the local, state, and in the future
national level? We are
interested in eventually writing a few
books. Discussing this with other counselors who are already
presenting workshops is difficult whereas they appear to want to
protect their own interests if you know what I mean.
Gary in Georgia
Regarding your book, I’ll give you the same piece of advice I
got from actor and writer John Larroquette when I started –
“Those who can write, write. Those who can’t, talk about it”.
I’ve written 6 books,
6 video programs,
over 300 audio CD’s (as part of my
and over 500 articles which have been published in this
newsletter and numerous other online and offline publications.
And I hate writing. I only do it because it’s an occupational
necessity to feed my speaking business.
The world’s largest business book publisher published my last
three books. They only allow 4 months to turn in a 60,000 word
manuscript, so your work is clearly cut out for you. But because
there are no such deadlines when you self-publish, make yourself
a promise to never again tell anyone you’re thinking about
writing a book because years will go by and it won’t happen.
Regarding the marketing, read “The Ultimate Marketing Plan” by
Thanks for your
question and good luck with your new business.
- Glenn in Nashville, TN
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After giving the keynote speech at a
conference in Ft. Lauderdale last week, I had dinner with the
attendees. Just as each of the six people sitting at my table
introduced themselves and were settling into one on one
conversations, something incredibly rude happened.
Another attendee joined us late, interrupted everyone, and
completely dominated the conversation throughout the entire
dinner – mostly trying to impress everyone with how brilliant he
was. No one else could get a word in edgewise.
sitting next to me was what they call my “Handler” in the
speaking business, and she was clearly embarrassed and very
annoyed. She tried to interrupt the Annoying Conversation
Dominator (ACD), but she was no match for him.
As I was
waiting for an Uber car to take me to the airport the next
morning, she came up and apologized for her “unprofessional and
She then confessed that while she
found him obnoxious, there was a secret part of her that wished
she could be confident and secure enough to be a “Buttinsky”
But she was dead wrong.
ACD’s who hijack
conversations like that are not strong and confident people.
In fact, this is an indicator of how weak and insecure they
ACD’s have been around for as long as mankind has
existed, and have always had one underlying (though obviously
unspoken) message – “Look at me! I’m like a 4 year old child who
has to be the center of attention all the time and hasn’t yet
learned how to share”.
People with high self-esteem don’t
need to be the center of attention all the time, because they
don’t need constant validation from other people to feel good
about themselves. They don’t feel threatened or jealous when
other people are the center of attention, because they’re so
ACD’s are exactly opposite.
they have such low SELF esteem, they
constantly seek validation from OTHERS,
just as a vampire constantly needs fresh blood.
might come off as assertive and even appear slightly impressive
with their ability to carry an entire conversation by
themselves, but they’re actually pathetic, needy, dependent
people who can’t be secure in themselves.
To Your Success,
This behavior can even turn deadly. A
study by Duke University Medical Center reported “Men who
monopolize conversations, interrupt others and excessively
compete for attention have a higher rate of early death (60%
more likely than all the other subjects to die of any cause)
than men who have a more relaxed approach to communicating”.
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