Couples whose individual weights fall between 101 and
200 pounds are more likely to file for divorce.
Don’t over think this.
Name someone you’d describe as “Two Faced”.
Got a name in mind?
Chances are you have a pretty
negative opinion of that person, because two-faced people tend
to do nefarious things like secretly cheating on their spouses
while portraying the public image of a saint.
When I was
a kid, Kenny Rogers had a hit song titled “Daytime Friends and
Night Time Lovers”, about a woman sleeping with her husband’s
friend. One line from the song went:
“He's the best
friend that her husband ever knew.”
Even though I
was just a kid and didn’t know of anyone who cheated on their
spouse, I remember thinking, “What kind of a two-faced scum bag
sleeps with his best friend’s wife? This guy is lower than low.
He betrayed his wife, AND his best friend too”.
need a PhD in Psychology to understand that you can’t be two
people. Yet too many managers make this mistake when they hire
their own friends.
Supervising friends rarely works
because the dynamics of the two relationships contradict each
Friendships are based on mutuality and
equality. Friends share their most intimate secrets with each
other, including things they haven’t even revealed to their own
spouse. But managers are in a superior-subordinate relationship
with their employees. It is not possible to simultaneously be a
person’s superior, and their equal.
One of the two
relationships will grow at the expense of the other. Either your
friendship will suffer, or your ability to supervise them will
As hard as it is to find good people to hire
these days, it’s even harder to find good friends.
risk losing a good friend by turning them into an employee as
In Servant Leadership,
In a coincidence dripping with irony, I wrote this
article in the same room that “Day Time Friends and Night Time
Lovers” was written in over 40 years ago. In 2016, my Beautiful
Bride and I bought the house that Hall of Fame songwriter
built in 1970. The idea for the song didn’t come from someone
having an extramarital affair; it came from Mr. Peters hearing
the weatherman saying, “Day time highs and night time lows”. He was
such a talented writer that he turned that hook into a #1 song.
For any aspiring writers reading this,
notice all the hooks used in this article.
1. The word
“You/Your” appears twice in the headline. Any time you can use
any variation of “You” in a headline, you increase readership.
2. The first line is one word and an exclamation point. This
also increases readership.
3. The second and third lines
ask the reader to perform a specific task. This also increases
readership because of something called the “Zeigarnik Effect”.
4. The fourth line asks a question, and specifically paints
a picture of a familiar person in the reader’s mind. This also
5. The first four paragraphs are
one line each. This also increases readership.
P. P. S.
Also for any aspiring
writers: Learning formulaic techniques for hooks like these is
expensive. I’ve paid over $4,000 to attend seminars to learn
this. You just got the benefit of my investment :)
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